You ever felt guilty about something you didn’t even do? I feel like the worst friend in the world right now, simply because I’ve been sparing peoples’ feelings, oppose to telling them the truth, and holding them accountable for their actions.
Avoiding truth and accountability, puts you in the crossfire. By accountability I mean developing relationships with other Christians that help to promote spiritual reality, honesty, obedience to Pops, and Heart-felt evaluations of one’s walk and relationship with Heavenly Pops and others. I’m talking about relationships that help your sisters/brothers in Christ change by the Spirit and the Word through spiritual conviction and faith. Accountability is one of the ways Pops holds us accountable to Him. Accountability is like a gut punch to the face.
I literally had to repent this morning while fighting back tears. I’ve been so wrapped up in myself, that I’ve been neglecting my responsibility as a friend. I’ve literally been pushing my friends away..not away from me, but from Pops. Yes, encouraging sinful behavior is the same as pushing them away from God. Instead of holding them accountable and rebuking them out of love, I’ve been egging on their actions. What kind of friend am I?! !
Before I can even address their actions; I have to address my own. I have been speaking useless words, instead of words of truth and love. The Bible says that we will be held accountable for every useless word spoken from our mouths. “And I tell you this, you must give an account on judgement day for every word you speak.” -Matthew 12:36 NLT
My heart hurts right now because I have never felt so convicted before in my life until now. I’m disappointed in myself because I’ve been so determined not to be that “judgmental, churchy friend” that I opt not to say anything at all and just leave them to dabble in whatever sins they please. I know I’m not responsible for their actions, they are grown. However, if I deliberately choose not to hold them responsible for their actions, then I become accountable. “For the Scripture says, ‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord, ‘every knee will bend to me, and every tongue will declare allegiance to God.’ Yes, each of us will give a personal account to God.” –Romans 14:11-12 NLT
What?! I’m not going to hell for NOBODY! I’m not trying to face Pops on judgment day explaining that I let my sisters/brothers in Christ fall because I didn’t want to hurt their feelings.
Be open, truthful, and genuine with your circle of friends. If they choose to disregard your attempts of accountability, then it is out of your hands and they will have to account for their sins.